February 12, 2026 / By Theresa Shadrix

I love a good comeback story - one where the impossible is conquered by the most improbable person.

I think it's because my life has been filled with slaying dragons and overcoming the defeats that have permeated my mind and existence.
Yesterday, at the JSU Student Success Summit, Dr. Melissa Shields spoke about the importance of relationships with students, where we stand on the educational map, and how she has overcome the impossible in her own learning journey.
By the end of her keynote speech, there wasn't a dry eye in the room.

Those with almost perfect ACE scores, like me, tried to hold back our emotions to avoid becoming an emotional hurricane.
When we talk about student success, it's not just about academics; it’s about building young people who are compassionate, dedicated, and empathetic, equipping them with the skills to sustain themselves in life.
We don’t often welcome failure in learners' lives, though.
We expect perfection, not perseverance.
How will they succeed if they don’t understand the power of picking themselves up after a fall? Imagine if we never let babies fall while learning to walk; we would all still be crawling through life.
When we fail, we are often judged by how we respond. I fail so often that it has become a jolly companion - sometimes laughing at me and sometimes laughing with me.
No matter what is happening in your life today, just know that you are not alone in your journey.
You are going to be pushed around sometimes.
You are going to be misunderstood at times.
You are going to fail.
But you are also going to defeat dragons.
You are also going to break generational trauma, refusing to let it break you.
You are also going to achieve the impossible.
You are going to succeed.
Be blessed in your journey today.
🩷


Edward O’Brien Maskew
/ By Theresa Shadrix, aka Big Sister

Some would say he had his head in the clouds.
I’d argue it was more like he was reaching for the stars.
He dreamed of having his ashes buried on Mars. When that proved impossible, he decided he’d be content with having some sprinkled in the waters of Pascagoula, MS, where his story began in 1972.
There are a few things he wanted me to share; we discussed it just last week.
He loved his family.
Every single leaf and branch in his family tree brought him joy. He felt blessed by the family he grew up with, his wife, his children, his grandchildren, and the new family members we discovered when he turned 50.
He loved his friends.
He simply refused to meet a stranger. He was always sharing stories about the conversations he had with friends throughout the years, especially those from his time at Chili’s. He made friends wherever he went.
He loved his journey of misunderstandings.
As he grew older, he became more open about living with Asperger’s/Autism and being misunderstood.
He said it was part of the challenge of grasping the complexities of galaxies, even as he sometimes struggled with everyday tasks.
He loved life.
You didn’t have to be around him long to hear a joke or a humorous observation. He had favorite physicists and chess moves, as well as a vast array of musicians. He chose to focus on the light in life rather than the darkness.
He loved God.
When you hear time ticking away, you tend to share more about the One who created us all. Over the last few years, he often said he wasn’t afraid of dying, but he was worried about leaving everyone behind. He said God would be with us all, even when his particles disperse.
His life was filled with challenges, yet he always tried to focus on the blessings as best as he could. He would want you to do the same. Go for a walk, take care of yourself, stare at the stars, adopt a dog or a spider, cruise the water on a kayak, eat spicy, live with a little spice, and love your family and friends.
Eddie chose organ donation and cremation. We want to honor his life and his wishes. We are still finalizing plans for the service and will share details as soon as we have them.
In the meantime, please pray for all of his family and friends. We are sure going to miss him. ❤️
Eddie left this on my Facebook page the night before he passed. I'll treasure it.


 

January 4, 2026 / By Theresa Shadrix

If I learned one thing in 2025, it was how forgiveness lifts the burden of pain and hurt.
When you are used to filling the emotional buckets in others' lives while your own bucket is empty, you learn to choose peace quickly.

You also understand that sometimes choosing peace means people will turn against you, believe lies, misunderstand you, or fail to be empathetic.

Forgive anyway.
When you are used to judgmental comments and turned-up noses of disdain, you learn to filter out hateful words, and you master the art of painting on a face of indifference.

Forgive anyway.
When you look in the mirror and have to silence the perspective of someone else's insecurities, you learn to see yourself through God's lens, who loves His creation.

Forgive anyway.
Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to carry on a relationship.
Forgiveness doesn't clean up a mess of dysfunction.
Forgiveness doesn't make all of your problems disappear.
Forgiveness is a healing balm. Forgiveness is freedom.
- Theresa ❤

I broke up with my desk

I broke up with my desk. 

I removed it from my classroom without a second thought. It served no purpose, and I had no emotional attachment to it. So, breaking up was not very difficult. I almost feel heartless, the lack of emotion I feel about getting rid of it. Who just tosses a desk to the curb as if it has no purpose? To make matters worse, I replaced it with a media cart and a metal organization shelf. I sometimes imagine my desk peering into my classroom, becoming downtrodden at the sight of me with my media cart in such educational and organizational bliss.

However, to be honest, my desk stressed me out. 
I stared at it, overwhelmed by the stacks of papers and the random items students had given me.  I once opened the middle drawer and found a back scratcher shaped like a small hand and a tiny pink toothbrush. Why were these items in my desk? At some point, they were handed to me as keepsakes, and I tossed them into the abyss without regard for them. My desk had become a black hole. We lost respect for each other.

When I decided to say goodbye, I had no instructional strategy or advice from an educational expert to guide me. I didn’t even have a hallway conversation at the tardy bell with a co-worker. I simply walked into my classroom, and I could not stand the sight of it. 

My desk mocked me with its mountains of paperwork I meant to file and piles of lesson plans I meant to develop. I often hoped that if I dug around, I would find a secret map that would lead me to a hidden treasure. But, in reality, all I saw was a toothbrush and a small metal hand.

I’m mature enough to admit that my desk was probably relieved that I made he first move in the breakup. After all, I forced it to hold a random toothbrush and back scratcher. Who knows what else I would do it in the future?

Truth is, I rarely sit down in my day. I teach Advertising & Design and Yearbook. My students are active and I like to walk around and view their progress. On the occasion that I am siting, it is either at my classroom computer next to my students or a tall stool that I can easily move around the room with my media cart. 

Ah, that media cart. I’m not one to boast about relationships, but I will admit that I’m rather smitten with my media cart. It offers everything I need. My laptop fits perfectly on the top and I have room for a few papers. My media cart knows that if it offered me a lot of space, I would, no doubt, take advantage of all the space and overwhelm it with papers. My media cart moves with me. It is there for me. It simply gets me.

                          
                              

If you are thinking about breaking up with your desk, think about these things:

WORKING SPACE
You still need a working space in your classroom that is just for you. I have two spaces. My media cart is for my laptop and daily walkabouts. I also have a classroom computer that is placed with my students. Even when I’m sitting and working on projects, I’m next to them. Bless their hearts, they can't get away from me. So, make your space work for you, but don’t distance yourself from your students.

I’M NOT READY TO BREAKUP
If you can’t get rid of your desk, think about placement. If your desk is at the front of your classroom, consider moving it so it is part of the students’ environment, not a barrier to it. Also, while you still have your desk, write down what storage you will need if you get rid of it. One by one, create space in your classroom for those items. Do not tip off your desk about the impending breakup. Play it cool. Clean out the drawers, one by one. You can slowly work your way into the breakup, instead of throwing everything on the floor and giving your desk the boot.

WALKABOUTS
If you sit down a lot, ask yourself if it is for you or your students. I mean it. This is a tough one. Teaching is tiresome. However, doing walkabouts in your classroom often keeps your students engaged. If you sit a lot, what message are you delivering to your students? If you can sit among them, try it. Keep in mind, you may freak out your students at first. However, I promise you that the more you are engaged with your students, the less you will need your desk.


Theresa Shadrix is an IDEO Teachers Guild fellow. She encourages you to Defront your classroom and set it up for student-centered learning. 

  • Move the teacher’s desk to the side (or remove it altogether)
  • Ask students to help design different class configurations for different purposes, and create “reset” options

On your mark, get set, go!

"Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but only one receives the prize? Run in such a way that you may win." 

1 Corinthians 9:24

On your mark, get so, go was the commanding charge that many of us had in childhood games. Racing as fast as we could go, we set out to not just run the race, but to win it. As the class of 2017 prepares for their race, I thought it was fitting to ask some friends about their life advice to graduating seniors. Congratulations Class of 2017!  Now, on your mark, get set, go!

"Be true to yourself." 
Eve Cole

"Always check your grammar." 
Julie Wells

"Don't let your education end with the conclusion of your formal studies, be it a high school diploma or your Ph.D. A fulfilling life is about learning new things every day. First, learn to use Spellcheck." 
James Firth

"Call your mom!" 
Teresa Harris

"Every day!" 
Tina Horn

"Take some time to see the country, the world if you can and enjoy a break before real life starts." 
Jackie Maskew Cavallin

"It's okay to change your mind and to not have it all figured out." 
Ashley Marie Toney

"If it all doesn't pan out the way you planned, God has something better in mind. Trust Him." 
Kristy Austin-Payne-Pate

"Learn to budget." 
Ariel Edwards

"Remember where you came from as you look to God for where you are going." 
Tina Horn

"Live at home with your parents as long as you can. Really, I would say allow Christ to lead and guide every move you make. Depend on Him and relax in His mercy and grace." 
Shawn Mason

"Stay focused on your ultimate goal in life. & remove any distraction preventing you from accomplishing that." 
Randell Curry

"Do not be afraid to fail. Through persistence and failure you will become stronger and more equipped for success." 
Uncle Brien Holcombe

"Stupid mistakes are okay but always have a mindset to accept the consequences and fix them. Nothing last forever and everything will be alright in the end. There's nothing wrong with admitting that you are wrong. Always take an opportunity when it provides itself. Don't ever give up but know when something is worth letting go. The truth is always important and saves a lot of trouble in the future. Education is important but values and morals are more important . Always try something new because there's no telling if it can change your life. I've personally learned these so far in college and they're the only ones I can think of off the top of my head" 

Nathan Gilbert

"Move away from home and learn who you are. Travel on a budget (it makes it fun and you can travel more). Plan for your future financially. Continue meeting new people and making new friends. Put your phones down and really talk to people that are all around you. Lastly, love every bit of life and find someone that loves life and Christ as much as you do!" 
Ashley Adams-Webster

"Remember that only reason and science will bring you through." 
Bob Shier

"Stay healthy" 
Derryl Groce

"Having knowledge is not the same has having wisdom. Wisdom is the ability to use your knowledge for the better." 
Stacy C. Smith

"Pick your battles, let God have control." 
Annalisa Amerson

"Use your knowledge to the best of your ability to excel in all areas of life. Stay clear of drugs and shady types of individuals. They get you in trouble. Wait until you are done with college to marry and start your family." 
Tonya Bailey

"Don't be afraid to be a little lost. You don't have to figure out the next 30 years of your life next week, next year, or even in the next decade. It's ok not to know what you want to do or be. As long as what you want to be allows you to be you. Many successful people reinvent themselves at 28, 38, and 48 so don't be worried about being 18 and not being sure. It's important to understand that life is more of a journey than a destination, and it's ok to take detours, revisit the map, and change paths. You can't put the next 40 years in the proverbial GPS of "you" and follow it to a T. They'll be construction along the way, but that's ok... Breathe, smile, and be happy. You'll find your way along the way. "
It's important to understand that life is more of a journey than a destination, and it's ok to take detours, revisit the map, and change paths. You can't put the next 40 years in the proverbial GPS of "you" and follow it to a T. They'll be construction along the way, but that's ok... Breathe, smile, and be happy. You'll find your way along the way. " 
Will Estell

"Try everything (unless it's drugs) that you're interested in." 
Cindy Woodard

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding! And ALWAYS wear sunscreen!" 
Martha Bain

"Don't register for 7:30am classes in college because you "got up that early all through high school and are used to it." It's objectively a terrible idea." 
Jonathan Gamble

"College is so much more fun when you know you'll be graduating debt free, with a degree in a practical career field with steady income. Risk taking is fine but you don't want to be financially irresponsible." 
Hannah Gay

"Just because something doesn't turn out the way you think it should, trust that God holds it and you and move on! not everything is easy, and just because someone else is doing something doesn't mean you have to the same. learn to love yourself and laugh at your mistake. take it one day at a time. and when you're late, you're already late might as well get breakfast too. " 
Raegan Thompson

"As I overheard my college junior tell a 15 year old the other day " choose a career path doing something that will make you happy , it's not all about the money " 
Kim Harris Guthary

"Find something you love to do, and work hard to do it well. And GET A JOB...You'll feel much better about yourself if you are supporting yourself." 
Lisa Sosebee

"Be an open minded leader and always willing to admit your mistakes. But above all love God." Anne Bradshaw
"Be true to yourself. God placed you here for a unique mission. If you follow through you will always have a sense of belonging to a greater cause. You will find joy and purpose in the lessons you learn. The lessons serve you or teach you what you need to share with others. Live close to nature and remember the heavenly light that you will return to someday when your mission here is done"
Anita Armbrister

"Follow your passion and do something you love. Adulting and working is hard enough...do something you love so you will be happy. Money isn't everything! You can't put a price on happiness and joy each day." 
Cindy Pair

"Keep your eyes on Jesus and get connected with like minded students if in college or not." 
Diane Smith

"Keep in mind walking distance between classes and how much time you put between each class. Schedule classes wisely. Also, email professors a week before classes start to find out if textbooks are gonna be used in class." 
Taylor Davenport

"Nothing in this life is free. Hard work pays off and so does networking! And high school is not the pinnacle of your life." 
Suzy Lindblom

"Consider other careers that doesn't necessarily need a 4 year college degree. Find and develop a trade!" 
Sally Duke

"Ask yourself who you want to help. It will do a great deal in leading you toward a fulfilling future. And, don't wait until you have all the resources/money/answers. Just start with what you have and go from there." 
Patrick Hallowell

"Never let someone influence your decisions that doesn't have a record of success! In the work force be kind and respectful to all people no matter their position there is no difference between the janitor and the CEO when it comes to respect!" 
Shawn Austin

"You can't say, "Read the Bible and follow its words. However, you can tell them to see faith, peace, strength, and joy." 
Sherry Kughn

"The medial tasks you take seriously and do your best at pay off. There is always someone watching." 
Angela Barnett

"Dream Big!!" 
Barry Russell

"Pick a career that involves something you love spending time doing! Something that you will be excited to get to everyday! You don't want to dread your day everyday!" 
Amanda Watts

"Pay your Civic Rent .....and ...if you don't lie you don't have to remember what you said!" Chip Howell

"Stay focused on your future don't let anyone sway you to get off your path. Get more education on your career.and keep steady" 
Cathi Handy

"Always try your hardest even on things you dislike. Even go out of your way to accomplish things. Employers watch for the ones that strive to improve every day. Might get yourself a raise! Also to try to make someone smile each day, you never know if that one person just needed that." 
Ryleigh Clark

"No matter what life throws at you never, ever give up. What you think is the worst thing to ever happen one day may turn out to be the next day's biggest blessing. Hang in there and trust the Lord with EVERYTHING!" 
Kelly Cline

"Follow your heart. God will lead you toward your dreams and sometimes your idea of your dream won't be what God's idea is. Welcome the change. Don't let failure get you down. Remember, you're following a path less traveled. If it was easy, everyone would do it. The difficulty makes it worth it. Don't be afraid to take chances. Oh, and don't take any class before 9 a.m. unless you have to." 
Sierra Hill

"Stay positive and always hold the door open for the person behind you. You never know who they might be." 
Stella Thomas

"Tomorrow is for second chances. Not for procrastinating."
 Sonya Bedford

"Get a job!" 
Kathy Murphy

"First-if you don't know Jesus-let me introduce you; Second-pray hard; Third-follow the Holy Spirit's leading as your life will be the BEST it can be...because you were created for a specific purpose." 
Carol Stewart

"Serve God, pray about everything, learn to manage your money, stay healthy and enjoy your life!!!" Vicki Pontero
"You may fail once, twice or even three times. Just pick yourself back up and try it again. In other words, never give up because once you do, that's when failure sets in." 
Kizzie Gooden

"Know that you will make mistakes, forgive yourself and learn from them, pray and follow God's advice (even if it's not what you want to hear), be nice to everyone, you never know what they've been though or what they may be dealing with, if you don't love your job look for another one, always have a dog...they will always love you, just because everyone else is doing it, doesn't mean it's right, don't always believe what you hear, every story has two sides, if someone really loves you they will not be mean to you, don't settle for less than the best...wait on your Prince or Princess....last one... don't use run on sentences--lol." 
Lori Campbell

"When you find your true love, hold on and fight for what you want. But real love will always find a way of working out...even if it takes 25 years to find it again." 
Sherri Allen

"I have always told both of my boys that nobody said that life is fair but hard work will pay off and the world is theirs!!!" 
Carol Lee

"Pay your bills on time.
Save at least a dollar from every paycheck. 
Take care of your family. 
Your word is your bond.
Lynn Fendlason

"Set "Achievable " goals. Don't set yourself up for failure. One step at a time!" 
Ken Rollins

"It's not your failures that define you.. it's how you move forward after.. 
.. treat the Janitor with the same respect that you would treat the President, you never know when you might encounter these people later in life 
...stay humble and have the same dignity behind closed doors that you portray in public (you sleep better )
And take ownership of your errors,
The whole band isn't always out of step.. sometimes it's YOU
AND SEND THANK YOU NOTES!!! When you receive a gift, when you have a job interview.. when someone helps you"
 Trayce Austin

"Your planner will be your best friend." 
Emma Foster

"Let fear drive you to chase your dreams! Don't miss out on things in life for fear of failure or what others think. Learn from your mistakes, but never let fear keep you frozen in life. Let it push you!" 
Addie Shake

"U DON'T have to figure everything out right now....Don't do what your parents or anyone else wants U to do but find your own passion and do what makes U happy....AND always be nice to everyone along the way cause U never know who will be your BOSS one day!!!" 
Tara Hazle

"Don't waste time and money not being 100% sure about what you want to do. At this point you should know what your passion in life is. If not, then you should sit down with s life coach to pin point what truly drives you. Don't be guilty of following someone else's dream for your life." 

Bob McClain